Navigating pregnancy after loss

Pregnancy after loss is a journey of immense courage and vulnerability.
Having experienced a miscarriage before my son Jonah, I know firsthand the emotional complexities of carrying a new life while grieving another. As a midwife and doula, I’ve also supported many others through this tender journey. In this post, I’ll share my story, offer guidance, and provide reassurance that you are not alone.

The Emotional Landscape of Pregnancy After Loss
Pregnancy after loss often brings a mix of joy, fear, and guilt. After my miscarriage, I felt hesitant to fully embrace my pregnancy with Jonah. Every milestone felt like a fragile hope. It’s okay to feel this way. Loss reshapes how we view pregnancy, but it doesn’t mean you can’t find moments of peace and joy.

Practical Tips for Navigating Pregnancy After Loss

• Build Your Village: Lean on people who truly understand your journey. Whether it’s a partner, a friend, or a support group, connection is healing.
• Be Open with Your Care Team: Share your history and your fears with your midwife or obstetrician. As a midwife, I’ve seen how vital this open communication is for feeling supported and heard.
• Focus on the Present: Tools like mindfulness or Hypnobirthing can help manage anxiety and keep you grounded. They were invaluable to me during my pregnancy with Jonah.
• Honour Your Loss: Acknowledging your loss doesn’t mean you’re ‘stuck’ in grief. For me, journaling was a powerful way to process my emotions. 
• Celebrate the Little Things: Every milestone deserves recognition, even if it’s accompanied by fear. Allow yourself to feel joy when it comes.

Pregnancy after loss is a path of resilience and love. It’s okay to grieve, to feel scared, and to hope all at once. As someone who’s been there as a mother, midwife, and doula, I want you to know that you’re not alone. With the right support and tools, you can navigate this journey with courage and grace.

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